Tonight I went to a La Leche League (find them on FB under Greater Bay Area LLL Group) meeting in Pearland to help some BAMOMs (Bay Area Moms of Multiples). One Momma with 7wk old twins and one who is 30wks pregnant. The topic turned to natural birth for twins and the AMAZING FB group Birthing Multiples Naturally. It was wonderful to hear about the natural birth from one Momma (birth story coming soon) while the other is still planning hers.
I returned home and sank into nostalgia and then I remembered it. The overwhelming sense of loneliness of my twin pregnancy. If you are doing everything your OB says, and planning your scheduled c-section, you can find a ton of local moms who are doing the same. But if you are being “difficult” and attempting to avoid unnecessary, major surgery…things get very lonely. Your new best friend may be someone who has a similar due date but may live across the world.
Nobody in your every day life understands that you spend every spare moment googling things like “percent of twins that are both transverse?”. I’m pretty sure I was the most annoying pregnant woman ever. I wasn’t talking about the adorable nursery, or how I couldn’t wait to hold them. I was more worried about intermittent monitoring, delayed cord cutting, and even tandem breastfeeding.
I felt so isolated. Alone.
But I was on a damn mission. I made do with my Australian friends. I found a Birth Sister in San Antonio, but I really wished there was a local group. Take heart! Now there is, you can find us on FB under Houston Natural Twin Birth. We keep a running list of doctors, midwives and even doulas who will support your choice. We post local birth stories. Let us be your Birth Sister.
You can do this. You are a strong woman, we have your back. 💗
In previous posts about tandem babywearing twins, you’ve seen my size 7 wrap my boring camel colored Ergos, and my Catbird Pikkolo and linen ring sling. When the boys were 11 months old, I went to the Houston Natural Parenting Expo and visited the Woodland Babies table. I spotted the Toddler Tula in Spa Scallop and was in love. So I sold my boring camel Ergos, bought a gray and black Ergo Performance that way there was something manly for the hubby to wear, and it would coordinate with the gray trim on my Tula. Is that silly? Yes, but I was strangely obsessed with carriers. Almost every part of my life with twins has been me being obsessed about something. I became such an overachiever. I had to know the best of everything. The best way to naturally birth twins, the best way to nurse them, the best way to sleep train them, the best way to feed them solids, I could go on but I’d bore you. Let’s just say I’ve become (more than) a little nuts since the moment I knew that there were two little ones growing inside me.
Almost 21 months old. They walk, they talk, they are potty trained (details coming soon) and they still have tandem meltdowns. Today was a rough day. I don’t know if it was teething, or the weather or the position of the moon. Regardless, it was nuts. I busted out the carriers. So you’ll get a peek at what it looks like to tandem wear 21 month old twins! There was even enough room for “Ubbie” and “Binkie”. Do I love these children. I do, so much it feels like my heart will burst, but not at that moment. I’m all about the truth.
tandem wearing 21 month old twins
tandem wearing toddler twins
So we tried out a new tandem carry a while back. It made for a great photo but it confirmed just how much a hate ring slings. It made me feel like a t-rex “I have little arms” (see video if you aren’t familiar with this phrase https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=93B072j-E3I ).
If you have it over your shoulder and down a little on your arm, you can’t lift your arm and then you have t-rex arm. If it is all on your shoulder, it will dig in after just a few minutes.
If you are wondering what carrier is on my back, it’s a Catbird Pikkolo in Georgia print. I LOVED this carrier. It was one of the prettiest gender neutral prints I’ve ever seen. The sling is a linen ring sling.
The only plus? It made an adorable photo!
Squish on the front and Stretch on the back
tandem wearing twins ring sling ssc soft structured carrier
Ok, so they aren’t actually bags, but that is the most common name for these sensory, Reggio Emilia, Montessori, open ended play, educational, and creative inspired toys.
Feed the Animals busy box – Life Plus Twins
A friend of mine was given one of these from her Mother-in-Law and I immedialy recognized the snack cups! Head over to the Dollar Tree and pick up a package of these snack containers. Two for a dollar, so don’t buy them from Amazon!
You will need to drill a hole for the mouth. Start with a 1/16 drill bit and work your way up to 1/2. My twins are 19 months and despite their many attempts, they could not manage to get their fingers stuck in the hole. It was just a smidge too big.
The correct size of pom-poms is paramount to this working. I had two sizes that worked but I’m not sure size they are. I’m thinking either the 1/2″ or the 10mm for the larger one and either the 3mm or 5mm for the smaller one. The smaller one fit through easily but the larger one took a little more concentration to squish in.
Meet Angela, one amazing momma. I have been wanting to share her Houston twin birth story for a while, finally getting around to it. So enjoy!
Her boys are over 9mo now and she’s still nursing, keep up the good work momma!
I thought maybe they just didn’t do these at Texas Children’s Pavilion for Women. Dr L had never even heard of it, and yet this was in the Houston Chronicle just a week or so after my boys were born.